As someone who’s been passionate about mental health and therapy for as long as I can remember, I’ve always believed in asking hard questions about what really works. Over the years, I’ve seen countless clients come to me after trying traditional approaches like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), feeling frustrated and stuck. These therapies are widely recognized and well-researched, but the truth is, they don’t work for everyone. And that’s okay.
Therapy isn’t one-size-fits-all. What works for one person may not resonate with another, and the process of healing is far too personal to be confined to rigid structures or step-by-step manuals. My approach to therapy embraces this complexity, focusing on what works for the individual rather than what’s popular or easy to measure.
Why Traditional Therapies Aren’t Always the Answer
CBT and DBT are two of the most common approaches clients hear about. These structured therapies focus on helping clients recognize and reframe negative thought patterns or develop specific coping skills. They’re backed by a wealth of research and are often the first recommendation for mental health treatment.
But here’s the thing: just because these therapies are widely studied doesn’t mean they’re universally effective. The research often highlights how measurable they are—how easy it is to track progress using their structured frameworks. But healing isn’t always linear, and human experiences are far messier than CBT’s worksheets or DBT’s modules can capture.
I’ve met many clients who tried these therapies and felt like failures when they didn’t work for them. They believed that something was wrong with them, rather than recognizing that the therapy itself simply wasn’t the right fit. That’s a problem with how we talk about mental health treatment—it’s not about fitting the person to the therapy; it’s about tailoring the therapy to the person.
The Importance of an Integrative Approach
What I’ve learned through my work is that the most effective therapy often comes from integrating multiple approaches. Each person is unique, and therapy needs to reflect that. Some clients thrive with structure and step-by-step guidance, while others need something more relational, intuitive, or experiential.
For example, parts work—like Internal Family Systems (IFS)—has become a cornerstone of my practice. It’s a deeply validating and gentle approach that helps clients explore the different “parts” of themselves, understanding their emotions and behaviors as distinct yet interconnected aspects of their psyche. For many clients, this approach feels more human, more relatable, and ultimately more transformative than traditional methods.
Similarly, modalities like hypnosis and somatic work offer profound opportunities for healing. They may not be as mainstream or widely recognized, but they provide access to parts of the mind and body that structured therapies often overlook. These approaches allow clients to process emotions and experiences on a deeper level, often bypassing the analytical mind to connect with what’s really driving their struggles.
Challenging the Status Quo in Therapy
One of the reasons I’m so passionate about moving beyond traditional therapies is that the field of mental health is still so young. We’re learning more every day about how the mind works, how trauma affects us, and what truly helps people heal. To me, sticking rigidly to what’s been done before limits our ability to grow as therapists—and to truly help our clients.
Therapy is as much an art as it is a science. It requires creativity, intuition, and a willingness to adapt. It’s about being present with the person in front of you, rather than trying to fit them into a pre-existing framework. This means being open to approaches that might not be as well-researched but are deeply effective for the individual.
Finding What Works for You
If you’ve tried therapy before and felt like it wasn’t helping, know that you’re not alone—and that it’s not your fault. The therapeutic process is deeply personal, and it’s okay to seek out something that feels more aligned with your needs and experiences.
At WellSite, we take an integrative, client-centered approach to therapy. Whether that means exploring parts work, hypnosis, or more traditional modalities, we’re here to collaborate with you and find what truly works. Therapy should never feel like a one-size-fits-all solution—it should feel like a journey of self-discovery, growth, and meaningful change. Get in touch today to start your healing journey.